The "Wagab" Scale !

In life there are things that we have to do. Things, that you will not do unless you feel pressure or force...Here, in Egypt, we call these things "wagab".Many things fall into the "wagab" category. Things like; attending funerals, visiting people in the hospital, having lunch with some members of your family, etc, etc...
All the things that you should do.. but you do not particularily enjoy doing.
I hate this wagab concept. I hate doing something that I do not want to. I hate feeling that I am being controlled by something or someone. So, I spend a lot of time trying to figure out ways of getting out of the less important "wagab"...
Now, I am not a bitch. I will visit people in the hospital. I will happily do it because I feel that maybe somehow I will make that person feel better. that I might be able to make this perrson laugh or something and therefore make it a bit better.. I do not think that I am forced to be there.
There are things like having lunch with my family that I am forced to do. I get annoyed with my cousins, I never enjoy it because I am pressured to be there, I am always attacked for thinking differently.. and when I go there it is impossible to leave. These are the "wagab" that I plan and scheme of getting out of. I have found a way that works.
So.. I will share my finding with you.
I noticed that the things that are considered "wagab" are varied in importance. Attending funereals are very important. Visiting the sick in a hospital is also very important, almost directly following the funeral attendance. Visiting a sick person at home would follow that. Family events follow far behind that. Visitng people after their wedding or honeymoon follows somewhere near there.
So, you can put them on a scale.
You check your sccale and see where the "wagab" that you must perform is located. Now, the only way to get out of doing this wagab is by having another "wagab" event which ranks higher on the scale than the one you are performing.
So, let's say I am invited to a family lunch today. I see it ranks midway on my "wagab" scale. I just choose anything ranking higher. I call my uncle and tell him that I might not be able to make lunch because I have to visit a friend in the hospital.
And I am out of it.. and there are no hard feelings. Now, to get out of feeling that you are lying.. you can pass by a hospital, maybe go in and buy Panadol from the pharmacy inside and you have just visited a hospital! ;o)
You have just cheated the system, the "wagab" system!