Parenting is one of the hardest jobs. The weird thing about parenting is that the job is its own reward.
I deal with parents on a daily basis. Most of the time I am somewhere between shocked and appalled! I am sad to say that most of the time I get the feeling that parents do not give a shit about the well being of their child.
I am probably not aware of all the things that the parents do for their kids, but I know that I see enough of what they don't do to wonder about the future of these kids.
I am sure that the definition and the role of the parent changes with every culture... but why? How come being a good parent does not have a universal definition? Isn't it all about making this little child into the best that he/she can be. Isn't it about making this child feel safe and protected?
Today I went on a field trip with my class. We went to this place where the kids just spend the day playing, creating, and making a mess! It was perfect. The kids loved it. A couple of other classes joined us on this trip. One of the girls in the other classes was swinging and the swing broke. She fell and smashed her nose on a wooden bench. She hit the bench and the blood just started gushing. She lost a lot of blood. She was going between conscious and unconscious. She was scared. We rushed her off to the hospital as fast as we could. While she was on her way to the hospital we phoned her parents.
Her mother did not come and just asked us to send her home on the school bus like usual. This was about 4 hours before school ended.
I am just wondering what that mother was doing that was more important than being with her hurt and scared child. I am wondering what her first priority is. I am wondering why she is allowed to be a mother....
I am wondering what this girls self esteem is like.. if you feel you cannot get the love of your own mother do you feel like you will ever have anyone love you? Will she grow up throwing herself at anyone who shows any kind of love? Will she ever know how to love herself?
I think that if we want a productive society we need to teach parents how to do their most important job..... loving their children!
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Psychological messing up children isn't a matter that parents keep note of in our culture. But then again, I think it's a universal problem and not just ours. Where most parents only teach their children about the whys and hows to earn money, they tend to forget to keep track of the weed they're growing inside their children.
Yes, there's a chance the girl's going to throw herself at anybody who shows her love, fake or real.. but then again maybe that won't happen, I hope.
Some people, somehow, learn to cope, adapt, and go by the saying that whatever doesn't kill you only makes you stronger.
I know that you must be right about it being a universal problem... but I just feel it more here because I am so involved with these kids.
I hope beyond all hope that this girl turns out ok. I hope she feels love and knows how to love.
I just want to know what happens if it kills a part of her? Will it make her stonger or just kill?
Nora, why you call this "Egyptian Parents"???? do you think this example is fair to use and label all Egyptian parents are like this? I think that is not true, not right, and nt fair....
Sherif
Sherif,
First of all I called this Egyptian Parents because this is my blog and I am free to call it whatever I want. If you feel differently than you are more than welcome to write your own post on your own blog and call it whatever you want.
Secondly, this is what I have noticed with the majority of parents that I deal with. I deal with a lot of parents here in Egypt and this attitude is the norm, not the exception.
Finally, I did not label all Egyptian parents. I said that I am sure these parents do things that I do not know about, I am just talking about what they are not doing.
I also used the word most, which means the majority, not all....
So, yes, I do think using this example is fair. I have about a million other examples too...
I do think this is fair, right, and unfortunately I think it is true...
While the case is indeed univesal,u r rite. U r an egyptian n entitld to call it egyptian parentin. I wonder-is this mother a 'tough love' kind?her behaviour does sound callous.at the least,she shud b calld in for a chat.n the girl shud b questnd how her mum reactd wen she got home
bibi-aisha,
Well, i do not think it would matter. There is not Child protective services in this country that could intervene in this situation.
No mother would sit down and listen to me preach about how she is killing her daughter emotionally...
I think that all I can do it try to be a positive impact on her.. and try to somehow make her feel that she is an excellent person...
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